Looking back on our approach to Christmas this year, we engaged in a rollercoaster ride of sadness that Q and Erin would not be here but thankful for his having a job at long last; then the stomach lurching drop of his layoff; followed by the knowledge that the silver lining would be something better and their visit for Christmas after all. Plans were set in place. Flight reservations made. And then, the snows came along with ice and then more snow compounded with even more ice. Flights were cancelled and I fell into a deep well of disappointment. For the first time, Quanah would not be with us at Christmas time. Our family would not be all together in one place. Empty nest and adult children's life had come home to roost.
Someplace along the line I finally got it that it was time to stop the pity party and get with the joy of the season. Things were as they were and that, as they say, was that. I felt this turn around start happening on December 20th after Mass. The display at the foot of the altar seemed to say it all..
And St. Joseph was there to remind me of the importance of family gathering and our options for creatively drawing ourselves together.

In no time at all things started to come together for me. We found our Christmas tree that afternoon.
And Don made his traditional banana cake the next day.Christmas Eve and meal preparations approached. Our large gathering had shrunk down to five. Dave and Yolanda arrived. The kids were stuck in Oregon and Krista's Chad was delayed in San Leandro. Traffic was miserable and it was unsafe for him to drive after 12 hours on the road from Arizona. But by this time I had shaken off the Christmas blues and was embracing the joy of the season with zest and verve. Food, laughter, a couple of calls to Oregon and we were having a blast.

There is nothing to beat my brother's great big smile or
Krista's elation when she was presented with this body pillow that Dave and Yo had thoughtfully name "Chad", nor
the thrill of Yolanda receiving yet MORE of her favorite, I can't live without it, hand creme.
But without a doubt, the hit of Christmas Eve was Don's wish coming true to get a Radial Arm Saw. I, being clueless about these things, didn't know there was a smaller and less expensive version I might have gotten for him.
However, considering the happiness and glee he has been feeling, I haven't felt a single twinge of regret. I think I'll let the pictures speak for themselves.
Christmas morning found us going slowly. For the first time ever, no one was in a hurry to open presents. I bet if Quanah had been here it would have been a different story but alas, he was not and the morning was leisurely and relaxed.
The turkey was stuffed.
Don had his favorite turkey leg and homemade cranberry sauce.
We called Quanah and Erin and put them on speaker phone so they could share the table with us for a bit.
Tanner begged
and I finally have a warm and cuddly robe (thank you Don). I'm even wearing slippers. Miracle of miracles.
But best of all was the smile on our daughter's face - Chad was finally with us.