The need for friendship is universal. We all need to know that we are in communion with another, that we are not isolated. Some find that communion in an intense relationship with God and in His service. Others find it in the value of friendships that are more human than sublime. And others, still, find it in the love of God and how that love opens us to human friendship.
This week, after a few weeks of feeling isolated, disconnected with God, and deeply sad and overwhelmed by the world around me, I re-surfaced. First I grabbed onto (finally) God's hand, which is always there waiting for me. Then God gave me a little shake and I reconnected with three women who are always present in my life, if not present in my day to day life.
I grew up with the desire for day to day friendship. Very likely, that was because day to day friendship that continues down through the years, was absent from my life. Moving around a lot was the big contributing factor. My life finally settled in my teen years and it is a truism that settling at 13/14 years of age into a circle of friends keeps you an outsider at best.
Unless you have something that makes you uniquely outstanding, something that makes everyone want you in THEIR circle of friends, even though you are new to the crowd, you will always be on the outside. The distance depends on the individual and my outsideness (how's that for a word?) was far enough out that the circle of friends didn't last once high school was over and we were thrown into the world.
Fifty years have passed since that final moment of childhood structure and I've learned a few things along the way. One of the best things is that friends made later in life are likely to be deeper and more meaningful. They ornament and enhance what you have made of your life. I have several ornaments - Toni, Kate, Elaine, Bev, Brenda, Marie, Michele, Athens, Yolanda, Barbara, and Biene instantly come to mind. Then there are the so many others that I've met through blogging and Facebook and parish work. As I think about all these people, I realise that I am truly rich in friendship and if I tried to list all of them, I would surely miss someone so, I'll stop where I'm at.
Three of my ornaments are above - Athens, Brenda (bottom left) and Sr. Agnes. They each sparkle and add zest to my life. They each have something that is uniquely compelling and attractive and I'm grateful that they are in my life.
Athens
Spartan woman. Strong.
Warrior and survivor
Tiger lily bloom
Brenda
Patient endurance
Adventuring traveler
Graceful Queen Anne's Lace
Sr. Agnes
Christian safe haven
Love exhausted and refilled
Flower of Baghdad